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PWP 46 | Parents Who Are Special Dangit!

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Have you noticed that I haven’t been talking about parenting specifically as much lately?

I think I may have figured out why.

How long has it been since you have tried to define yourself without using any of the roles you play in other people’s lives (i.e. mom, husband, son, employee, etc…)?

It’s not that I don’t think these roles are a valuable part of my life, but they get enough air time.

What about you?  Just YOU.  What do you like, fear, hope, want, need?

Because you know what?  Who you are and what you need matters.

On today’s episode I disclose:

  • What Mr. B asked me that made me laugh but that then kept me up all night
  • What my pediatrician’s office calls me and what I wish they would call me instead
  • Why I haven’t been talking about parenting as much in these last few episodes
  • What I want to go back in time and tell myself
  • An activity I use to figure out what the heck I want and need
  • and a (slightly morbid) point on why I feel it’s important for me to define myself without using any labels like mom, dad, brother, sister, spouse

Links mentioned today:

Pat Flynn’s book Will it Fly

The Airport Test Activity & Poster Set

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PWP 45 | Parents Who Leave Space For Things to Not Be Okay

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Somtimes you just need to not be okay.

You need to not rush to things being better.

Staying in that low feeling is counterintuitive, but it’s where I’ve found the best, longest lasting solutions lie.

The kids walk in as I’m recording today’s episode and I decided to leave it in. 

Just further proof that I am not perfect, and I do not have time management, boundaries, etc. all figured out.

If you’ll let me, I would like to help you sit in the uncomfortable space of “it’s not fine” so that we may later get to “I’m okay.”

And not just any okay.  But a real, sustainable okay.

So in that spirit, on today’s episode:

  • Three small children come ambling in
  • I share how I thought I had ruined my life
  • Why I don’t want you to tell me it’s fine
  • and how staying in “not fine” can lead to “I’m good”

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PWP 44 | Parents Who Run Down the Side of a Mountain and Then Jump Off

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Yes that is really me.

Yes I really ran down a hill and then jumped off of the side of a mountain.

And it was incredible.

Since recording the last episode, I’ve been feeling scared. And frustrated.  Not sure what subject I wanted to tackle next.

But luckily for me, inspiration was sitting right on my external hard drive.

Seeing this video of me was just the reminder I needed to be brave, record this episode and then share it with you.

I don’t know everything about you.  Not even enough to really help you with all your parenting, marriage, or self problems.

But what I CAN do, is show you how I’m dealing with mine.  Show you my process.  My strategies, tools, resources.

It’s definitely a vulnerable place, but I know from experience that vulnerability is courage.  And I value courage over fear.

So in that spirit, on today’s episode I talk discuss:

  • What the strongest predictor of how your child will do is
  • How to convert shame into curiosity
  • How I’m fighting my battles and attempting to raise healthy, wholehearted children in the process
  • and why sometimes you have to run downhill in order to fly

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PWP 43 | Parents Who Find Time For Themselves

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I just put the baby down and then flew upstairs to record this real fast.

I hear so often parents lamenting that they don’t have enough time for themselves.

While I admit, in the season of having young kids, it will probably never feel like enough time, but

You have more time than you think.

Time isn’t something that you find, it is something that you make.

Gut punch right?

You have the time.

I promise you.

(If you think you are the exception, email me and I’ll help you find it.)

What you probably lack, is the same thing I lacked for six years – permission and belief that you are worth taking time for.

You matter.

You have to believe that.

I got so jazzed up I forgot to even do an intro or any music for today’s show.

On today’s episode I talk discuss:

  • How and why you actually have enough time to take for yourself
  • What is getting in the way
  • How to start with 5, 10 minutes of time and grow that into whole days of time
  • Encouragement that you are worth doing this work

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PWP 42 | Parents Who Find Permission Part III

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I want to give myself permission to have a bad day, to prioritize my marriage over my kids, to ignore what society says and do things my own way but how the heck do I do that?

Today we continue with the three part series on giving yourself permission. (Part I here) (Part II here)

How do you push through the anxiety and self-doubt and selfish feelings that crop up when you try to give yourself permission?

Even if it’s permission for something simple like taking a nap?

Sometimes those simple permissions can be the hardest, but if you can give yourself permission for the smaller things, eventually it will be easier to give yourself permission for the bigger things.

On today’s episode I talk discuss:

  • The unexpected benefit I found in giving myself permission
  • What usually has to happen before change is possible
  • How to push past the anxiety you will feel when trying to do things differently
  • What you may need to do in order to trust yourself again
  • The struggle I have had in giving myself permission to spend less time with my kids
  • Why moving to Spain and living in Turkey was easier for me than deciding how to pack my kids lunch
  • My favorite home decor item, that can help with self-worth! It’s by Letterfolk and you can find it here.

This is a dense episode.  One you might want to bookmark.

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